Gather 'round darlings, for it is story time. True story time.
This morning when i went for a run (ie - "jogging" slower than most people walk), I saw the moon, big and full and placed "just-so" in the sky abve the Burrard Street Bridge. And I remembered a story. All the names have been changed.
My best friend all through high school was Kelly Reid. We did everything together. Near the end of our grade 11 year (aside, in Canada we tend to say "Grade eleven" whereas Americans tend to say "Eleventh grade." Subtle differences), Kelly's family (she had two younger brothers) decided that they would like to adopt a little girl. From Russia.
They had had a few friends do this already. They knew it could be tough and there might be red tape and that it might be long and/or difficult, and they knew that no two foreign adoptions out of Russia were the same. But they had two plusses in their favour: Friends who had already adopted out of a St. Petersberg orphanage had taken photographs of many of the children there, and although they weren't certain, they had a slight "feeling" about one girl, 5-year old Hannah. The other plus was that other friends and former neighbors, the Crawford family, were living in St. Petersberg, having moved there as Christian missionaries. The Crawford family hosted them during their stay and also acted on their behalf through a power-of-attorney form when the Reids had to go home (the entire process did end up taking about a year).
The Canadian requirements for foreign adoption were met in a couple of weeks. So Mr. & Mrs. Reid went to St. Petersberg, and unlike some of their friends, were told upon arrival that they would not be allowed to visit any orphanages before choosing a child's name to adopt from a list. A list! Typed, no pictures. They picked the girl they had had an interest in, Hannah, having never met her, though friends had given a good report from what they had seen.
Later they met Hannah and all of the children in the orphanage. They were told not to hang out with any children in particular; it was important not to get any of their hopes up, especially so soon in the process. The Reids came and visited with all of the children. When they left, Hannah went to a worker and asked, "Is that going to be my new mummy & daddy?"
Mr. Reid stayed a month, and Mrs. Reid stayed a few months longer, but soon she had to go. Before she left she told Hannah that they were trying to adopt her, that they had three other children who wanted to love her, and asked if Hannah would like to come and live with them. Hannah was upset at first to hear about the other children, so she sulked. The following day, just before Mrs. Reid had to catch her flight, she stopped again to see Hannah. Mrs. Reid gave her a gold necklace and started to cry. Hannah had still been sulking. She said, "I love you," weeping. Hannah took her would-be mother's face in her little five-year-old hands, lifted it, and in perfect English said, "I love you."
It took quite a while, the entire decision ended up depending on a lawyer who was away on vacation. Finally the deal was sealed. Mrs. Reid and their youngest son went to pick Hannah up and bring her home.
In the weeks that followed, Kelly had time to take Hannah out to the beach for some new-sister bonding time. When they got there the moon was bright and big and full in the sky. Hannah, now six, looked at the moon, pointed, spoke & stared. Then it dawned on Kelly:
Hannah had never seen the moon.
She was six years old and had never seen the moon. She didn't know what it was. Kelly had the unique opportunity to show her new sister the moon and teach her the word for it. She was astonished.
One or two nights later, the Reid family went together to the park. Again the moon was in the sky. Hannah wrinkled her face quizzically and said, "Moon?" Pause. "Moon?" She had thought that, because she had only ever seen the moon at the beach, the moon was a fixture of the beach. They had to explain to her that yes, that was the moon, too.
Hannah is now in her teens. She must be 17 by now. I barely know her because I moved away after high school, which is when they brought her home. She is definately a happy part of the family, was a flower girl in Kelly's wedding, and I'm certain that none of the Reids could ever imagine what life would have been like without her.
I've always been keen to the idea of foreign adoption. I've always wanted to do it. And some children are really rescued, more so than we could ever think. Friends of the Reids adopted a child that, because she was born prematurely -- and only for that reason -- was labelled "mentally retarded." When they brought her home some of the top specialists in Canada confirmed that to label that child as retarded was, in essence, utter bullshit. She was in perfect health. In Russia, she would have grown up to be a beggar.
So who knows if I'll be one of the ones to have a foreign-born child. Who knows what good things are in store for us all? We shall wait and see, and be content with the way the seasons unfold.
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